Text messages and DMs are convenient, but nothing beats the personal touch of a phone call. If you’re part of the online dating world you’ll probably want to have a quick chat before meeting up in person so you can get a better feel for your potential date’s personality. The first phone call can be intimidating, as this is where a lot of first impressions will be made. We’ve compiled this simple guide to help you out before you hit the dial pad. Read our top 5 tips for the first phone call below.
1. Keep it short and sweet
Romantic as it may sound, you don’t have to stay on the phone until the sun comes up. In fact, the first phone call should be treated as a taste tester that will leave them wanting more. Fifteen minutes is plenty of time to make a genuine connection and spark interest. It may be handy to have a friendly and genuine excuse to end the call so it doesn’t drag on.
Ex. ‘I’m so sorry but I’ve just realized the time. My friend is coming over in a few minutes so I have to get going. It was great to talk to you, hope we can do it again soon.’
2. Don’t judge someone by their voice on the phone
If you’re feeling nervous about the phone call, chances are they are too. Always give the other person the benefit of the doubt and remember that our phone voices are always different than our regular voices. And if you click and really like each other, does the sound of their really matter?
3. Don’t talk about dating or past relationships
Keep things light and flirty during the first phone call. You’ll have time to discuss your past if your conversation blossoms into something more serious in the future. A little bit of mystery is always a good thing in the beginning of a relationship. Bonding over negative dating experiences isn’t the foundation you want to build upon.
4. Don’t monopolize the conversation
Use this conversation to try and get to know the person you’re chatting with. Talking about yourself too much can make you appear disinterested in the other person. Reciprocate questions that they ask you, and try to expand upon them where possible before putting the focus back on yourself.
Bad: ‘What have you been watching on Netflix lately?’ ‘Cool. I’ve been watching x.’
Good: ‘What have you been watching on Netflix lately?’ ‘I’ve heard interesting things about that show! How are you enjoying it so far?’
5. Remember, the goal is to make plans to meet
You can reveal a lot through phone calls and messages, but nothing truly shows a person’s character like a face-to-face meeting. You don’t have to make concrete plans over the phone, but suggesting the groundworks for a first date is a great idea. For example, you can ask them about their availability or suggest a location. Follow up with texts to seal the deal.
Ex. “Are you doing anything this weekend? There’s a new Italian restaurant I’ve been wanting to check out if you’re interested in joining me.’ ‘Saturday sounds great! I’ll text you the details later.”
A few more quick tips:
- Keep it positive! Answer in a cheerful voice to start the conversation off upbeat.
- Show that you’re taking the call seriously by eliminating any background noise or distractions. (Turn off the TV, stop eating, find a private space.)
- Aim to get your top dealbreaker questions answered.
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