So Does Our Matchmaking.
In ancient Greece, Sophia represented the highest form of wisdom, not just knowledge, but deep understanding of the human experience. When Sophy Singer founded her conscious matchmaking agency, she didn’t just create another dating service. She built a sanctuary where wisdom guides every connection.
The name Sophy Love isn’t coincidental. It’s a declaration. It represents the marriage of ancient wisdom with modern love, where finding your person becomes a journey of self-discovery and growth. Here, wisdom means understanding that sustainable love begins with knowing yourself deeply, your shadows, your light, and everything in between.
“Beyond transactional dating, we create transformational journeys rooted in wisdom, psychology, and authentic connection.”
"I saw an industry built on transactions—packages sold, dates counted, boxes checked. But love isn't a transaction. It's a transformation. That's when I knew everything had to change" - Sophy Singer
Transformative, Not Transactional
After years as a dating coach and working with the nation’s largest matchmaking firm, Sophy Singer witnessed a troubling pattern. The industry had reduced love to a commodity: packages sold, success measured in numbers, connections valued by quantity over quality.
In 2018, Sophy made a radical decision. She left behind the traditional model to create something revolutionary: a matchmaking agency that treats dating as a pathway to healing and personal evolution. While others were counting dates, Sophy was facilitating breakthroughs. While competitors sold packages, she curated lifetime experiences.
Having navigated her own “capital T traumas,” Sophy understood firsthand that our deepest wounds create our strongest barriers to love. She knew that sustainable, authentic relationships only emerge when we’ve done the inner work. This insight became the cornerstone of Sophy Love where every client’s journey begins with transformation, not transaction.
The result? A conscious matchmaking methodology that has revolutionized how successful individuals approach love, turning the search for partnership into a catalyst for becoming whole.
A Revolutionary Approach Grounded in Depth Psychology
Dating apps and most agencies treat relationships like transactions: quick swipes, shallow profiles, and numbers over meaning. Sophy Love is different. We take a transformational approach, helping you grow as a person while guiding you toward real connection. Our transformative methodology integrates three powerful frameworks that address love at its deepest levels:
Internal Family Systems – recognizes that we all have different “parts” within us the protector who fears vulnerability, the exile carrying old wounds, the firefighter who sabotages when things get too close. Through IFS-informed matchmaking, we help you:
- Identify and heal the parts that block authentic connection
- Transform internal critics into supportive allies
- Create space for your true Self to emerge in relationships
- Break patterns that have kept you from lasting love
When all parts of you are welcomed and understood, you become capable of welcoming and understanding another.
Jungian Depth Psychology: Embracing Your Whole Self – Carl Jung understood that we often project onto partners what we haven’t integrated within ourselves. Our Jungian approach helps you:
- Recognize and integrate your shadow aspects
- Understand the archetypes influencing your romantic patterns
- Move toward individuation, becoming whole within yourself
- Transform unconscious patterns into conscious choices
We help you stop seeking your “other half” and instead become whole, attracting another whole person.
Authentic Relating: Beyond Surface Connection – In a world of swipe culture and surface-level interactions, Authentic Relating creates genuine intimacy. This framework teaches you to:
- Show up with radical honesty and vulnerability
- Create safety for deep sharing and true seeing
- Move beyond personality to essence-level connection
- Build relationships on presence, not projection
When you learn to relate authentically, every interaction becomes an opportunity for profound connection.
These aren’t just theories—they’re practical tools that transform how you date, relate, and love. Our clients don’t just find partners; they find themselves.
Sophy Love’s clients don’t just meet people, they change their lives. Through personalized coaching, curated introductions, and deep inner work, our clients report greater confidence and self-awareness, more aligned and authentic connections and relationships that last because they’re built on truth and growth.
When you work with Sophy Love, you’re not buying a service you’re investing in your evolution. You’re choosing to:
Break generational patterns of disconnection
Heal the wounds that have blocked real intimacy
Develop the emotional intelligence for lasting partnership
Become the person capable of attracting and maintaining profound love
We're not here to help you find someone to complete you. We're here to help you become complete, so you can create a relationship that multiplies rather than divides, that enhances rather than diminishes, that transforms both people into more than they could be alone.
This is conscious matchmaking. This is the future of love."Success! I met my husband on the second match that Sophy set me up with. It was an instant connection. Sophy was fantastic! She was kind, always available, and most importantly she truly listened to what I felt I needed and wanted. The fact that she took the time to get to know me gave me more hope and comfort. Honestly, she could not have found me a better partner. I am now happily married with a baby girl. I really love my family. Thank you Sophy!
Sophy has taught me how to brave the dating world with no fear, no reservations, and no ego. I feel reassured that we are getting closer to finding my perfect match and I couldn’t do it without her.
It takes great care and ability to bring together two people who are searching for one another. The attention to detail from start to finish, the pep talks, the honest encouragement and quality of introductions truly set Sophy apart!
Sophy has an intuitive nature. She is able to understand a person as if you were an old friend, in a rather remarkable fashion. She is kind, empathetic, accommodating, and a true ally in the scary world of dating. I feel that she actually listens to my concerns and her dating pep talks are the best! She is converting an exhausted dating cynic into an actual optimist.
Sophy = matchmaking done right. I imagine matchmaking done right is a challenging job, Sophy handled it with ease. Sophy is an awesome communicator and pays attention to detail. Finding a connection isn’t easy, but Sophy does all the heavy lifting and makes it fun in the process.
Sophy has been an amazing matchmaker. This is my first time using any matchmaking service, and she has been there for me on so many levels. I don’t have to swipe, vet or negotiate – she listens to what I’m looking for in a partner and goes out of her way to make sure I’m satisfied. This has been an extremely positive experience, and it’s wonderful for people like me who are too busy and too old to keep swiping!
Sophy is amazing! She came highly recommended from a friend and did NOT disappoint! I felt like she has a tremendous gift for listening and understanding what I was looking for in a future husband. And she delivered him as my first match! We hit it off from our first date and truly believe we are soul mates. We’ve been together for over a year and a half and recently bought a new house together with a wedding in the near future! I highly recommend Sophy if you’re serious about finding the partner you’ve been waiting for!
I had been divorced for a number of years. I thought I was fine by myself: I had friends, and activities, and I was happy. But I was encouraged to take a chance, and rather than put myself on the internet, I found Sophy. She was easy to open up to and helped me to really think about what was important to me moving forward. She encouraged me to be open to the new experience of dating and she always listened. On the second “date” that she set up, I met my fellow and we talked for hours. We connected in so many ways that we knew we were the “right fit.” We haven’t been the same and we never will be. It has been two+ years and on the anniversary of our first date, we send a text to Sophy and thank her for putting us together. Thanks Sophy, you have shown us our happy place, and it is brilliant.
Sophy listens to your story with compassion and kindness. Under her guidance, you feel less alone navigating the overwhelming and intimating world of dating (both online and in person). Ask Sophy for help, you won’t regret it…it could truly be the first step you take to finding that great love you have been searching for!
In working with Sophy, I felt like I was speaking with a good friend who had my best interests at heart. She took the time to get to know me, and where I was struggling. Our conversations were fun, educational, and supportive (even when they included some tough love). Most importantly, they involved thoughtful reflection, forcing me to articulate my feelings about dating in a way that I never had before. All of this helped me learn a lot about myself, and what qualities actually mattered to me in a prospective partner. Now I’m in the healthiest, happiest relationship of my life, and I firmly believe this would not have been possible without Sophy!
The course was one of the most powerful workshops of my life and it was exactly what I needed. I’ve been putting the practices into my life and watching the results show up almost everyday. It’s incredible. The work is like a key that is unlocking my life and allowing me to blow by blockages that I’ve tripped over for years. So again thank you, thank you, thank you.
At the Closer workshop, Ryel paired us up, and took us through guided questions meant to dig deep and really get to know one another. By the end, I felt like I hadn’t made meaningless small talk and that I hadn’t been robotically evaluating people with checklists, but instead getting to know them IN REAL LIFE. Since the workshop, I’ve been a lot more honest with the people I date, instead of hiding my emotions or trying to be someone else who has different preferences.
It’s impossible to learn how to build deeper connections alone, which is what makes Closer workshops so special. It’s the perfect way to practice showing up as your most authentic self with a group. Ryle creates an atmosphere that’s both fun, and educational which really helped me connect to myself while Sophy curated a group of like minded people. I came away with a few fun dates and a couple new friends.