the secrets of secure attachment and authentic connection.
Heal your past, empower your present, and create a future
of healthy, conscious, and sustainable love.
You’re seeking a liberated approach to love, unbound by the constraints of your previous attachment style.
The course was one of the most powerful workshops of my life and it was exactly what I needed. I’ve been putting the practices into my life and watching the results show up almost everyday. It’s incredible. The work is like a key that is unlocking my life and allowing me to blow by blockages that I’ve tripped over for years. So again thank you, thank you, thank you.
At the Closer workshop, Ryel paired us up, and took us through guided questions meant to dig deep and really get to know one another. By the end, I felt like I hadn’t made meaningless small talk and that I hadn’t been robotically evaluating people with checklists, but instead getting to know them IN REAL LIFE. Since the workshop, I’ve been a lot more honest with the people I date, instead of hiding my emotions or trying to be someone else who has different preferences.
It’s impossible to learn how to build deeper connections alone, which is what makes Closer workshops so special. It’s the perfect way to practice showing up as your most authentic self with a group. Ryle creates an atmosphere that’s both fun, and educational which really helped me connect to myself while Sophy curated a group of like minded people. I came away with a few fun dates and a couple new friends.
Meet your
Guides
Justin Wilford Phd
author, internal Family Systems Coach
Justin guides leaders in business and the healing professions in personalized, one-on-one Internal-Family-Systems-based practices that allow them to see, understand, and compassionately relate to all of the unconscious protective mechanisms that keep them from connecting with their highest wisdom and deepest, truest selves.
Justin began learning how to do this during his PhD training as a health scientist developing wellness programs for families affected by health crises. Wilford helped to develop programs focused on diet, exercise, and sleep but found that mental and emotional health were the prerequisites for all other changes in our lives.
With the aim of designing more emotion-focused health programs, Justin trained in mindfulness-based stress reduction, health coaching techniques (such as motivational interviewing and active listening), emotion-focused therapeutic approaches, authentic relating, breathwork, and most importantly, Internal Family Systems. Throughout this time, he consulted with dozens of therapists, researchers, trainers, and coaches to learn how to blend all of these approaches in a way that drives deep self-discovery, emotional healing, and lasting emotional fitness.
Justin Wilford
author, internal Family Systems Coach
Justin guides leaders in business and the healing professions in personalized, one-on-one Internal-Family-Systems-based practices that allow them to see, understand, and compassionately relate to all of the unconscious protective mechanisms that keep them from connecting with their highest wisdom and deepest, truest selves.
Justin began learning how to do this during my PhD training as a health scientist developing wellness programs for families affected by health crises. Wilford helped to develop programs focused on diet, exercise, and sleep but found that mental and emotional health were the prerequisites for all other changes in our lives.
With the aim of designing more emotion-focused health programs, Justin trained in mindfulness-based stress reduction, health coaching techniques (such as motivational interviewing and active listening), emotion-focused therapeutic approaches, authentic relating, breathwork, and most importantly, Internal Family Systems. Throughout this time, he consulted with dozens of therapists, researchers, trainers, and coaches to learn how to blend all of these approaches in a way that drives deep self-discovery, emotional healing, and lasting emotional fitness.
Sophy Singer
CEO, Conscious Matchmaker & Date Coach
Sophy is a Certified Professional Matchmaker and Conscious Date Coach with 14 years of experience in the field. Her approach to conscious dating combines intuitive matchmaking with strategic coaching, helping you align your dating life with your deepest values and desires.
Sophy Singer
CEO, Conscious Matchmaker & Date Coach
Sophy is a Certified Professional Matchmaker and Conscious Date Coach with 14 years of experience in the field. Her approach to conscious dating combines intuitive matchmaking with strategic coaching, helping you align your dating life with your deepest values and desires.A 4-Day Transformative Journey to Heal Your Attachment Wounds
Welcome to ‘Becoming the One’ – a transformative course that harnesses the power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to heal your attachment wounds. Led by experts Justin Wilford and Sophy Singer, you’ll embark on a profound journey of self-discovery, learning to build secure, fulfilling relationships by understanding and nurturing your inner world.
Workshop Syllabus
Workshop Schedule
Day 1: Friday, September 6th
3:00 — 6:00pm PST
Day 2: Saturday, September 7th
10:00am — 1:00pm PST
Day 3: Friday, September 21st
3:00 — 6:00pm PST
Day 4: Saturday, September 22nd
10:00am — 1:00pm PST
Day 1: Discover the foundations of Attachment Science and IFS
Begin with introductions and an overview of the course. Explore the history and science behind attachment styles and learn the basics of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Engage in initial practices to identify your attachment style and connect with your parts.
Day 2: Explore the depths of your internal system and its impact on relationships
Reflect on Day 1 insights and delve deeper into IFS roles like managers, firefighters, and exiles. Analyze how these roles and your attachment style influence your relationships. Participate in breakout exercises to practice speaking FROM and FOR your parts, and complete a homework assignment with your peer partner.
Day 3: Experience transformative IFS-Informed Breathwork
Learn about and experience Holotropic breathwork in a guided session designed to help you access and heal parts. Reflect through meditation and journaling, then share your experiences with the group. Receive guidance on self-care practices to support your post-breathwork integration.
Day 4: Integrate True Self leadership into your daily life
Review key learnings from previous days and focus on cultivating True Self leadership. Create a visual map of your parts and practice the YOU-Turn technique to shift from external validation to internal healing. Participate in group discussions, observe demonstrations, and develop a plan for continuing your IFS practice.
Breakout Practices
Throughout the course, you’ll engage in breakout practices designed to help you apply what you’re learning. Master the art of speaking FROM and FOR your parts, deepening your self-awareness and enhancing your ability to lead with your True Self in everyday situations. By working in pairs or small groups, you’ll practice new skills in a supportive environment, enhancing your ability to lead with your True Self in everyday situations.
Attachment Theory and Science
Historical Background:
Discover the foundations of how we connect with others. Attachment theory has evolved significantly over the years. Starting with Freud’s early theories, John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth later revolutionized our understanding of attachment by emphasizing the importance of the child-parent relationship. Their research identified four main attachment styles: secure, insecure-avoidant, insecure-ambivalent/resistant, and disorganized/disoriented. Understanding this evolution helps us grasp the profound impact of early relationships on our adult lives.
Attachment Styles:
Understanding these styles helps us see how our early emotional attachments shape our lifelong relationship patterns. This course will delve into these concepts, helping you recognize and transform your own attachment style. Which style shapes your relationships? Find out in this course.
What is IFS (Internal Family Systems)?
A Revolutionary Approach to Self-Understanding, Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a transformative framework that views the mind as made up of distinct parts, each with its own role and perspective. Beneath these parts lies the True Self, a core essence of calmness, compassion, and clarity. IFS helps individuals heal by facilitating communication and harmony among their parts, leading to greater self-awareness, improved relationships, and enhanced emotional well-being.
Key Concepts:
- Embrace the multiplicity of your mind – we’re all beautifully complex.
- Connect with your core Self – the source of wisdom, compassion, and healing.
- Understand how internal conflicts shape your external struggles.
- Learn to harmonize your inner world for profound personal transformation.
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We use IFS as a framework to help you understand and heal your attachment wounds. You’ll learn to identify different parts of yourself, understand their roles in your relationship patterns, and cultivate True Self leadership.
The workshop will run over two weekends in September 2024:
Friday September 6th, from 3:00 PM PDT to 6:00 PM PDT
Saturday 7th, from 10:00 AM PDT to 1:00 PM PDT
Friday September 21st, from 3:00 PM PDT to 6:00 PM PDT
Saturday 22nd, from 10:00 AM PDT to 1:00 PM PDT
This workshop is for individuals who want to heal their attachment wounds, break free from old relationship patterns, and develop deeper, more fulfilling connections in all areas of their lives.
The workshop consists of four 3-hour sessions spread over two weekends, totaling 12 hours of live instruction. There will also be peer connection activities between sessions.
Holotropic breathwork is a powerful technique used to access and heal parts of yourself. While it’s safe for most people, we provide comprehensive health guidelines to ensure a safe experience. Please review these before participating.
For the breathwork sessions, you’ll need a mat, blanket, optional eye mask, water bottle, journal, writing utensil, and headphones. A quiet, private space is also recommended for all sessions.
This workshop combines attachment theory, Internal Family Systems, and experiential practices like breathwork in a group setting. It offers a unique blend of education, self-exploration, and peer support that differs from one-on-one therapy or coaching.
While the workshop provides powerful tools for personal growth and relationship improvement, building a secure relationship takes time and practice. This workshop sets you on the path, but ongoing work will be necessary to fully integrate the learnings.
We strongly encourage attending all sessions live for the best experience. However, if you must miss a session, all sessions are recorded and we can provide materials to help you catch up. Please contact us for specific arrangements.
Yes, you’ll have access to a unique healing community and continuous text support to help you integrate the learnings into your daily life.
The cost for the full workshop, including all materials and access to the community, is $897.
In this workshop you will...
Experience a profound shift from attachment-driven connections to relationships rooted in authentic self-expression.
